Want More Abundance? Deepen Your Relationship to Money

Are willing to expand how you look at money? Are you willing to deepen your relationship to money?

A lot of women are in pain around money, and I want to change this. One reason they are in pain is because they don’t earn enough, despite how good they are in their work. “Underearning” is about the pattern of earning below your potential. And while this is relative, I know far too many amazing women who underearn.

I believe that what fuels underearning is a fractured approach to money—an approach that doesn’t nurture your relationship to money. Perhaps you look at the mechanics of finance, trying to figure out how to earn more, debt less and save more. Or you look at your money beliefs and try to figure out why you do what you do, fighting your discomfort or ambivalence about money. Maybe you practice an affirmation for a while. But this fractured approach doesn’t honor your overall relationship to money. And maybe this is part of the problem. Do you want this relationship? Or does your relationship to money feel like an “arranged marriage” and now you just have to make do?

It may sound overwhelming, but in my years as a money coach, I’ve found that when women embrace a more holistic relationship to money, and decide to actively nurture this “relationship” on many levels, making money becomes easier and easier.

So I want to invite you to look at ALL three aspects of your relationship to money. It’s time to attend to your emotions and core beliefs around money (emotional money), AND learn skills around asking for and managing money (practical money), AND master the metaphysics of money– how what you think and feel affects your financial life. In short, it’s time for a well rounded holistic approach to this vital relationship, so you can earn what you are really worth. This is the way out of financial pain and into abundance. And this is the path to a more authentic relationship to money.

If you maintain a narrow view of money, looking at only slices of how you relate to finance, your relationship to money stays painful at worst and inconsistent at best. You may earn more for a while and then find yourself slipping backwards—engaging in financial self-sabotage or simply not able to sustain the level you desire. And if you persist in being compartmentalized about money, you will forever keep true abundance at arm’s length!

We are complex beings who are both emotional and intellectual. For too long we have viewed money as either a neutral tool at our disposal or the embodiment of our personal energy. This goes back to the very mind-body split that so many now rail against! Let’s heal this split around money. Let’s look at finance in a way that honors all the facets of who we are.

The good news is that it is possible to have a fabulous relationship to money—a relationship that nurtures you and supports you earning what you’re really worth. As we pay more attention to our emotions around money, learn useful skills around asking for and managing money with ease, and master the metaphysics of money, we step more and more into our true potential. We become more alive. We release limitations and step into our power.

So the question is—are you willing to expand how you look at money? Are you willing to enter into a deeper relationship? If you find the mechanics of money easy, are you willing to look at the emotional aspects? Or if you are at ease in the emotional realm, are you willing to learn some new skills? The first step to earning your worth is to be willing to look at your relationship to money, in all its facets.

Join me as I journey with you down all three of these paths. Please consider earning your worth as a true journey of self-discovery. Healing and transforming your relationship to money is one of the most intense personal growth journeys you can make.

2 thoughts on “Want More Abundance? Deepen Your Relationship to Money

  1. Yesterday, I went from being self-employed (and struggling) back into an architects office. I have had an ego-problem with working in an office, where the payment is lousy. But I need to improve my skills and my network. So, knowing it would mean low payment I did go there and am glad, they accepted me. Now I will move to a much smaller flat and try to make do with the payment I recieve.

    So with this step I am working an conquering underearning in all three aspects. Emotionally I had to overcome my anger towards an “ordinary life”. Because of a complicated childhood I thought the world owed me something. Now I start to give it to myself finally instead of waiting for someone to rescue me.

    Methaphysically, I trust the universe will show me how to still have enough money while I am working my way up the ladder and later on in a self-employed life, for which I am now laying a solid foundation.

    Practically I always use a plan to to work out how I want to spent my money and put at least 10% aside for savings.

    Though it seems like a contradiction in terms, going for a low-paing job to learn the lay of the land feels to me like I am finally headed in the right direction.

    Thanks Mikaelann for constantly cheering us on.

  2. Thank you for the reminder that real change comes from being honest with ourselves and accepting where we are at this moment in time. It is so easy to look at a situation and just say “I want to fix this….NOW!”. But your comments on going deeper and understanding that there is an actual relationship going on, a way of relating to money that bears some investigation and understanding is key.

    I found the 3 components, the emotional, practical and metaphysical aspects really helped me clarify where I stand and serve as a guide and a road map for getting to where I want to be. On the surface this seems directed to just finances but it goes so much deeper and wider than that.

    Thanks for a great article!

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